Doing Your Husband Good Even Now

Doing Your Husband Good Even Now

by Anonymous Warrior Poet | March 1, 2012

While I was growing up, my family lived in a rural area, and our elderly neighbor had a large property that she would allow us to explore. This beautiful piece of land consisted of a range of cliffs overlooking a valley of trees, with several streams flowing down the entirety of it. Because of the tranquil scenery of this environment, my siblings and I would often use this mountain as a place to hide away and seek the Lord. My sister was once up on the mountain spending time with God and happened to pass a man who lived nearby on her way back home. This man was later speaking with my parents and several times mentioned “that girl with the Christian glow.” Though the man was not a Christian, he saw something altogether different in my sister’s countenance. There is something truly radiant about a woman when she has been with the Lord, dwelling on His majesty and greatness.

True warrior-poets, and sometimes even phony warrior-poets, can often discern whether a young woman possesses heavenly beauty, simply by looking at her. Proverbs 31:12 says: “She does him good and not evil All the days of her life.” God makes it clear that not only are women called to do their husbands good after they have married, but they are also exhorted to show honor to their husbands even before they have set eyes on the one God has for them. As drastic as it sounds, every set-apart young lady is called to honor and respect her husband every moment of her existence. And I might add that God has also called me, as a man, to love, honor, and cherish my future wife every moment of my lifetime as well.

So, how exactly does a woman do her husband good even before she meets him? I believe it starts with meditating upon God’s Word day and night so that she might know His character and nature. As she gazes upon the face of Jesus, His radiance and beauty will be reflected in and through her life. She must place her full dependence upon Jesus Christ, and find her everything in Him. It is then, and only then, when she is seeking the kingdom of heaven first and foremost, that she is able to do her future husband good. And as a man, it is only when I build my life around Jesus Christ that I am truly capable of loving and honoring my future wife well.

It is actually very simple: the way to show honor to our future spouse is to place God before all and above all. When God is in His rightful place in our lives, honoring our future spouse will be the natural result.

As a warrior-poet-in-training, I would like to share a few practical ideas with you for doing your husband good even now, as an outflow of your relationship with Jesus Christ.

The Moments of Your Day

Where you spend your time reveals the object of your devotion. A young woman who has learned how to utilize every moment of her day wisely will make an excellent wife. How do you spend your moments? Are you devoted to earthly things? Or is your full devotion and affection placed upon the Lord? A young lady can honor both the Lord and her future spouse by bringing structure and discipline into her life, spending her time on God’s priorities rather than her own whims.

Keeping Emotions in Check

Emotions are not inherently wrong, but every set-apart girl needs to learn how to bring her feelings and desires under the control of God’s Spirit. If you heed the voice of emotion and allow it to control or guide your life while unmarried, it will hinder your relationship with Christ, and eventually wreck havoc upon your marriage. While learning to restrain your emotions does take time, it is essential to begin while you are single. Your future husband will highly esteem you for purposing to stand upon the Rock rather than allowing wavering emotions and feelings to govern your life.

Putting Christ First

When the Lord is your refuge and strong tower, you will press your husband closer to Jesus Christ. It is important when you marry that your life is constantly driving your husband to his knees in servitude and worship of the Lord. Ask God to do such a work in your daily life that others would be convicted even now if they were to observe your most hidden actions, words, and thoughts. If you are showcasing the glory and majesty of King Jesus in every area of your life, you will ultimately be serving and honoring your future husband. Jesus Christ must always come before your husband. Whether single or married, the Lord must be the first Beloved of your life.

The Power of Prayer

Hudson Taylor once said, “It is possible to move men, through God, by prayer alone.” So pray – earnestly seeking the Lord on his behalf. Remember that until you have met your future husband, prayer is the only way in which you can press him into Christ.

Serving Your Family

Growing up, my mom always told me that the way I treated those at home was how I would ultimately treat my future spouse. Most of us have a strong dislike for that statement because it incriminates us – but it does contain truth. If you do not serve those in your life now, how do you expect to suddenly learn what it means to be a faithful servant in marriage? Show deference to those around you with a towel and basin in your hand, and as a result, you will be prepared to serve and love your husband in a manner which befits a woman fully given to the Lord.


It ultimately comes down to this: be a faithful disciple of Jesus Christ, conforming to His image in all things, and He will honor and serve your future husband through you. Rest in the fact that the Lord will watch over those who put their trust in Him. He cares about your future marriage, and while you seek the kingdom of heaven, He will be forming your future husband after His own heart.

In human strength, you will never be able to do your future husband good. Allow Christ to be the King of kings in every facet of your life and He will be begin to showcase His life in and through you. Make Jesus Christ your everything, and you will surely do your husband good “all the days” of your life.*

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